Sunday Random Hair Chat #5 - Critcs Versus My HHJ

When I first started my HHJ, I didn't get any support. My mother wasn't feeling it. Alot of my family was wondering what was wrong with my hair. When I first started, I was in that novice stage. I was learning styles and tryinng to find myself in my HHJ. I lost alot of support. People were telling me that I shouldn't be walking around looking wild by the head. But I saw braid outs and twist outs as beautiful styles. No else did. No one could understand why I stretched my relaxer so long. "4 to 6 weeks is plenty." The comment I continued to get was YOUR HAIR IS GOING TO FALL OUT WAITING THAT LONG FOR A RELAXER. I was extremely tired of the comments, but they kepy coming. Family and friends alike do not believe that hair can grow past SL and APL. That is the capping off point.

People seem to fail to realize that my hair was extremely long before. I mean, WL. Did we forget that? Sadly, I did not appreciate my hair and decided to cut all of that hair off. I have been trying to get back to length for the longest, to no avail. Four long years on this HHJ and my hair has done little progression as far as length. I told my mother and my brother that I was going to grow my hair back to where it used to be. They scoffed in my face and told me that it would never happen. Since that convo, I have never brought up growing my hair back down my back again. I am just dreaming silently. I rather they see the proof for themselves. It will happen, one day.

I have been experiencing with roller sets for about a year. That has gotten my fam somewhat off of my back about how my hair looks. I would love to hide my hair for a month of two, but my family was like, YOU HAVE ALL OF THAT HAIR; YOU SHOULD JUST GET YOUR REAL HAIR DONE INSTEAD OF WEARING WEAVE. Being that they do not understand the benefits of hiding hair, I just let them talk. They have been the biggest part of why I do not wear weave  to do this day.

Critics are out there ready to throw salt on everything you stand for. Just today, I was talking to someone about me going off to do something in the medical field. Her response was that I am too old and I might as well settle down and find me a job now. Critics, boy. They will not stop until they bring you down to their level. But my mind and my dreams are too high to be brought down to average level. That goes for hair, careers, talents, whatever. If you have thick hides and skins, good for you. But I was born with a sensitive skin and my heart on my sleeve. So when the critics began to talk, I was really offended and really hurt by the comments. But eventually the thick skin grew, and I have been able to handle also everything that has been thrown at me.

My advice to anyone: please do not give up. Please continue to dream, but dream silently. You will never know how much more silent the critics are when you are actually doing your thing undercover. By the time they realize you were up to something, it will already be in full fruition. So, good luck and continue to grow.