Current Hair Info

Current Relaxed Length: blunt Full SL
Current Curly Length: 1/2 inch all over
Current Stretched Curly Length: 1 inch all over
Last Relaxer Date: January 19, 2015
Next Relaxer: May 2015
Last Trim: February 21, 2015

Current Hair Length

Current Hair Length
February 21, 2015


Hair Goals 2015

Hair Goals:

Keep hair rodded for a month
Braid out for a month
Updo for a month
Sew in for a month
Braids for a month
Reach full APL
Graze BSL before 2016

Friday, November 9, 2012

I am relaxing every three months, but why???

I have found myself slipping: sneaking a relaxer in at 6 and 7 weeks post. The temptation to relax my hair can get extremely great. It is so hard to shake it sometimes. I have found myself wetting my hair when the going gets really tough where I am dressed with shoes on and keys in my hands headed to go get a relaxer. To avoid relaxing prematurely, I have wet my hair numerous times in the nick of time. Call it crazy, but it keeps me going one more week until I get that urge again.

Another thing that causes me to relax early is my mother. My mother hates when I stretch. She thinks that I am being lazy when my hair is not straight and crisp, every hair in place. When I relax her hair, I find her ridiculing me about how she can comb through her hair and I can't. Truth is, she cannot comb through her hair without my help, if we want to be technical, lol. So, peer pressuse has caused me to relax.

Sometimes, I just miss my straight hair. I will miss wrapping my hair. I will miss tamed hair. So, that will cause me to relax, too.

When I relax under 8 weeks, I have this overwhelming feeling of guilt that comes over me. I would feel like that I have let me and my hair down. But I have now decided to never relax under 3 months or 12 weeks, however you would like to put it.

One reason why is because I hardly can tell how much NG I really have.
Another reason why is because the more weeks I am, the more I can tell exactly what I am relaxing.
Last reason why is that I have this goal to relax four times a year.

And that is pretty much it.


  1. I also have a personal challenge not to relax earlier than 12 weeks. In the past, I used to do 8 weeks.

  2. Since I started relaxing, I've mainly stuck to 12 weeks except the one time I had underprocessed hair that prompted me to relax at 8 weeks. It's normal to feel guilty when you relax that early because you are now aware of the importance of stretching.

  3. Good luck on your new "challenge"!

    I know how peer pressure goes, especially from your family! But remember that you're doing all this for a reason...

  4. That's about how often I relax 4-5 times per year and although its not as impressive as some ladies' stretches I am very comfortable with it and don't mind my edges not being perfect at all. Your mom sounds like mine at the start of my HHJ; good thing was I didn't live home or nearby or I would've had to hear it too!


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