I have found myself slipping: sneaking a relaxer in at 6 and 7 weeks post. The temptation to relax my hair can get extremely great. It is so hard to shake it sometimes. I have found myself wetting my hair when the going gets really tough where I am dressed with shoes on and keys in my hands headed to go get a relaxer. To avoid relaxing prematurely, I have wet my hair numerous times in the nick of time. Call it crazy, but it keeps me going one more week until I get that urge again.
Another thing that causes me to relax early is my mother. My mother hates when I stretch. She thinks that I am being lazy when my hair is not straight and crisp, every hair in place. When I relax her hair, I find her ridiculing me about how she can comb through her hair and I can't. Truth is, she cannot comb through her hair without my help, if we want to be technical, lol. So, peer pressuse has caused me to relax.
Sometimes, I just miss my straight hair. I will miss wrapping my hair. I will miss tamed hair. So, that will cause me to relax, too.
When I relax under 8 weeks, I have this overwhelming feeling of guilt that comes over me. I would feel like that I have let me and my hair down. But I have now decided to never relax under 3 months or 12 weeks, however you would like to put it.
One reason why is because I hardly can tell how much NG I really have.
Another reason why is because the more weeks I am, the more I can tell exactly what I am relaxing.
Last reason why is that I have this goal to relax four times a year.
And that is pretty much it.
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I also have a personal challenge not to relax earlier than 12 weeks. In the past, I used to do 8 weeks.
ReplyDeleteSince I started relaxing, I've mainly stuck to 12 weeks except the one time I had underprocessed hair that prompted me to relax at 8 weeks. It's normal to feel guilty when you relax that early because you are now aware of the importance of stretching.
ReplyDeleteGood luck on your new "challenge"!
ReplyDeleteI know how peer pressure goes, especially from your family! But remember that you're doing all this for a reason...
That's about how often I relax 4-5 times per year and although its not as impressive as some ladies' stretches I am very comfortable with it and don't mind my edges not being perfect at all. Your mom sounds like mine at the start of my HHJ; good thing was I didn't live home or nearby or I would've had to hear it too!
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