Current Hair Info

Current Relaxed Length: blunt Full SL
Current Curly Length: 1/2 inch all over
Current Stretched Curly Length: 1 inch all over
Last Relaxer Date: January 19, 2015
Next Relaxer: May 2015
Last Trim: February 21, 2015

Current Hair Length

Current Hair Length
February 21, 2015


Hair Goals 2015

Hair Goals:

Keep hair rodded for a month
Braid out for a month
Updo for a month
Sew in for a month
Braids for a month
Reach full APL
Graze BSL before 2016

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

:-( My Mother's Hair Update

Let me start this blog off by saying rest in peace to my mother's PROGRESS! I am so upset with her. I relaxed my mother's hair about two weeks ago. I decided that I should go ahead and relaxer her short area because it was making hair stick up. Comb overs would help it and you could see straight to her scalp. Well, I relaxed her hair so that she could have coverage and would not be ashamed and so no one could see through to her scalp. BASICALLY, YOU COULD REALLY TELL MY MOM HAD A BIG PATCH OF HAIR MISSING. After the relaxer, she had so much progress. My mom gained length. I didn't even have to trim her hair up in the back. She had plenty of coverage. She could comb her hair with little worry about making sure that her short hair was covered. Well, my mom has been taking naps on the sofa and in bed WITHOUT a bonnet on. I kept telling her to put a bonnet. She didn't listen. Well, two days ago, my mom asked me to flat iron her hair. When I parted her hair and began to work, I could have passed out. MY MOTHER'S PROGRESS WAS GONE! From where she had been sleeping with nothing on, she has caused SEVERE breakage in the center of her head and the back. Her progress from her problem area is GONE! you cannot even cover it with other hair, it is that bad. If you looked directly at her problem area, you would see that hairs that was two and three inches two weeks ago are now less than 1/4 of an inch. I am so F****** pissed!!! I constantly tell her that she needs to do better, especially that her hair is extremely short and patchy. She would usually ignore me. But that day, I had to cut two inches of my mother's hair. In a nut shell, My mother's hair is in horrible shape. But she wants it to grow, but she won't act right. In my mind, I have given up. Her feelings are hurt now. NOW, she wants to do better by the JBCO and wearing a bonnet to bed. She says her biggest problem with that bonnet is that she doesn't want my dad to think she is unattractive at bed time with it on. But what is she supposed to think when she is pure bald?! Oh, yea that's sexy....sarcastic voice. I don't know what to do.

By the way, no photos because she is absolutely embarassed and disgusted with herself that she wouldn't let me take any for comparison. I wouldn't want to see how bad it has gotten either. It is that horrific. I could really use some advice. I work hard doing what I do, and all she has to do is wear a bonnet to bed, but she acts like that is too much work. I am fed up. I am so close to saying that I quit and that she is on her own, because she is stressing me out....AND I refuse to let stress take my own hair out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


  1. Give her another try; she's said she would go the healthy way now. She would be very glad. Just be patient with her.

  2. Hopefully she's scared straight. My mom is the same way; she's seen my progress but she doesn't want to "pay the cost to be the boss". She hardly DCs, hardly covers her hair, etc. And she seriously wonders why I keep having to trim her hair back to NL. Sigh. Mothers.

  3. Now that I have seen your comments, a small amount of compassion has been inserted inside of my itty bitty body. I am hoping to move out in a couple of years, but I guess I will continue to help her while I am here. Le sigh!!! Mothers act like they know so much, but will not follow simple things. #frustrated

  4. I sympathize with you. Your situation sounds frustrating. My philosophy when helping others on their hair journey is to give others the info and let them prove they are willing to do the work themselves. You can't make someone care about anything. Hopefully she sees the damage, remembers the progress and does better. Other than that, just be an example of what hair could look like with extra effort. Don't work yourself up too much.



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