This is an awesome question. I thought about this in the drive thru line at McDonalds. Weird, right? Anywho, I have been on this journey for almost four years. I have been through ups and downs, as far as products that work and do not work. I am happy to say that I have found a good and secure place in my journey.
But where would I be without these changes I have made. hmm...
One awful place I would be is relaxing every five weeks. I would continue to have limp and overprocessed hair. I would continue to spend nine dollars for a relaxer eleven times out of the year. Also, I would be getting 11 relaxers a year, lol. I would not be prepping my hair for my relaxers at all. I would not know the proper way to relax still. I would be leaving the relaxer on a long time, without caring about the time frames that have been indicated for the different textures of hair.
I would be flat-ironning my hair two times a week every week. I would continue to blowdry every week. I would still be using no heat protectant. The days that I would feel like I want a little shine to my hair, I would put my heat instruments on hair and heat style with bees wax. My hair would be constantly split due to the enormous amount of heat. I would have to continue to receive frequent trims due to my damaged ends.
I would be trimming every month. Trimming every month has left me at the end of year with the same length of hair that I started the year with. My inability to trim properly has left me with uneven, choppy hair.
I would be still listening to hair myths. "Dandruff means that your hair is growing." "If you trim your hair, your hair will grow faster." "If you stretch your relaxer past 6 weeks, your hair will fall out." "Brushing your hair 100 times a day stimulates growth." "If you leave your hair in a ponytail for so long, your hair will grow." "Grease on the scalp makes hair grow." "If you didn't have long hair when you were a child, you cannot grow your hair long now." "Black women cannot grow long, relaxed hair." Even though I have shown remarkable growth and health in these short years, my family still doubt that I can grow my hair back to WL. I am a journey to prove them all wrong. Women can dream, right? Well, what is wrong with me dreaming? Not only is WL a dream, but it is achievable because I have been there before. Sadly, some of us did not realize the beauty in our hair. Some of us were so quick to cut, color, process our hair where we didn't not appreciate our true beauty. I know I am speaking for myself, and I am paying the price. I am picking up the pieces of what my hair was, LONG. True enough my hair was quite long back in the day, but my hair is at its healthiest right now.
If I wasn't on this healthy hair journey, my hair would have stayed the same length for all of these years. I would probably still be spending countless amount of money on stylists. I would probably still use cotton scarves to tie my hair down with or nothing at all. I would probably still rely on others to relax my hair. I would probably apply heat with not heat protectant. I would have never met any of you wonderful and inspirational ladies.
XOXO
But where would I be without these changes I have made. hmm...
One awful place I would be is relaxing every five weeks. I would continue to have limp and overprocessed hair. I would continue to spend nine dollars for a relaxer eleven times out of the year. Also, I would be getting 11 relaxers a year, lol. I would not be prepping my hair for my relaxers at all. I would not know the proper way to relax still. I would be leaving the relaxer on a long time, without caring about the time frames that have been indicated for the different textures of hair.
I would be flat-ironning my hair two times a week every week. I would continue to blowdry every week. I would still be using no heat protectant. The days that I would feel like I want a little shine to my hair, I would put my heat instruments on hair and heat style with bees wax. My hair would be constantly split due to the enormous amount of heat. I would have to continue to receive frequent trims due to my damaged ends.
I would be trimming every month. Trimming every month has left me at the end of year with the same length of hair that I started the year with. My inability to trim properly has left me with uneven, choppy hair.
I would be still listening to hair myths. "Dandruff means that your hair is growing." "If you trim your hair, your hair will grow faster." "If you stretch your relaxer past 6 weeks, your hair will fall out." "Brushing your hair 100 times a day stimulates growth." "If you leave your hair in a ponytail for so long, your hair will grow." "Grease on the scalp makes hair grow." "If you didn't have long hair when you were a child, you cannot grow your hair long now." "Black women cannot grow long, relaxed hair." Even though I have shown remarkable growth and health in these short years, my family still doubt that I can grow my hair back to WL. I am a journey to prove them all wrong. Women can dream, right? Well, what is wrong with me dreaming? Not only is WL a dream, but it is achievable because I have been there before. Sadly, some of us did not realize the beauty in our hair. Some of us were so quick to cut, color, process our hair where we didn't not appreciate our true beauty. I know I am speaking for myself, and I am paying the price. I am picking up the pieces of what my hair was, LONG. True enough my hair was quite long back in the day, but my hair is at its healthiest right now.
If I wasn't on this healthy hair journey, my hair would have stayed the same length for all of these years. I would probably still be spending countless amount of money on stylists. I would probably still use cotton scarves to tie my hair down with or nothing at all. I would probably still rely on others to relax my hair. I would probably apply heat with not heat protectant. I would have never met any of you wonderful and inspirational ladies.
XOXO
hey girl thanks for the tip. HHJ
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