Making a few changes in my life

Hello, All.
I wanted to come to you with a few words about things that I am about to change. I do not believe that I will continue to use this blog in regards to my hair. I have been working on a new blog that will be a combination of hair, nails, work and school. Please follow my new blog at

NEW BLOG

Again, this blog page will no longer be active. I want to combine my blogs rather than try to work on more than one. So I am currently working on how to combine the blogs. If you reach this blog, it is going to look rather skimpy, but I am working hard to get this blog up and running. HOWEVER, I do have my initial post up, so please go check that out.

Once again, I believe that I will be letting this blog go. Please follow me at my new blog.

On to bigger and better,
Alexis

My hair is suffering

Split ends, dryness and breaking and I am babying my hair. What is it that I could be doing wrong? Who knows? I continue to work with my hair.
What am I doing now?

Well, I have been adding a hot oil treatment as my prepoo. I was hoping that this would help with the overall strength with my hair, but I have yet to discover what is going on. I have yet to find a protective style. I am still tending to my hair day after day. I was hoping to put a flexi rod set in, but the rain in lower Alabama has been rough for a few days, so I have been trying to work around the weather by utilizing my professional go-to hairstyle: the pincurl updo. Quick, sleek and out of the way, I have been working with this style all week. Today is my last work day of the week. Thankfully, I will actually have time to give my hair a good washing so that I can tend to my hair properly.

I am currently five weeks post. My goal is to stretch my relaxer until December and see what the Christmas holiday takes me. I am stretching in order to start over in my HHJ as a full texlaxed lady. We will definitely see though, The urge to bone straight relax my hair grows stronger within my soul everyday, lol. However, school and my job keeps me out of my hair. I continue to work on finding out what will save my length while I stretch. I plan on trimming my hair once a month to keep my ends blunt and to chip away the dead, overprocessed relaxed ends. The very thought of ridding my relaxed ends keep me encouraged to continue to run this race I call a HHJ.

Until next time,
Alexis

Update Post, but no pix

Hello, ladies.
It has been a few weeks. School, work and my personal life had my full attention, and I apologize for that. I just wanted to come to you with this blog post about what's going on.

1. I am still still trying to stretch my relaxer. I wanted to announce that I am not relaxing my hair anymore until December. Do not talk about me if I do not make this goal, lol. Ok here is the logic:
I am currently transitioning to texlaxed. Some of my roots are texlaxed, but I have some NG too. However, I cannot determine what is texlaxed and what is NG. I know both are there but I cannot differentiate the two. SO, to avoid overlapping any previously texlaxed hair, I have decided to stretch my relaxer for close to nine months. I believe that 9 months will give me enough time to see the clear difference. Eventually, I want to be able to start snipping the relaxed hair away. I have even thought about stretching for an entire year, Big Chop as a natural and start over by texlaxing the natural hair and start complete as a full texlaxed head anywhere between December 2015 - March 2016. I have also considered texlaxing two more times this year and cutting relaxed hair off. I have also thought about gradually transitioning while trimming along the way. I am all over the place. I do not know where I am going to end up. In addition, I have thought about texlaxing in August and December of this year and cutting almost half of my relaxer hair off before the new year. Right now, the decision is so hard to make, so I have been considering all sides and I believe as I continue to grow in my transition that I feel like I will make the better choice for myself. Do I see myself going completely natural? I do see myself doing, but that is not a goal for me. My goal is to have a loosen curl pattern. However, I have not allowed my hair to grow out to where I could even lay eyes on a curl pattern. So that will be a first for me. I will actually see what my natural curl pattern looks like. I believe that I would go natural is my natural curl pattern is loose; however, I am unsure of the curl pattern and do not believe that it is quite loose. So we will see.

2. I am on a 60 day challenge. This 60 day challenge includes me squating 5 days a week, working on getting dental work done, take vitamins to get grow stronger nails and taking hair vitamins for 60 days. I started 4/1/15 and will end 5/30/15 and I will give an update on 5/31/15 in time for my birthday, 6/1! The goal is to have some type of life back there, to grow out my hair more and to have the remaining painful dental work done. Last year, I experienced some dental pain on my birthday. I was very uncomfortable for birthday, but I do not plan to repeat it this year. So, I will be working hard to have my teeth fixed before my birthday.

3. One day, I spoke with my mother about obtaining some braids and wearing them for a while. If you didn't know, I am counselor at a residential rehab facility. My mother and grandmother told me that they did not believe that braids had any place in a professional field. They were trying to discourage me from getting them. But I am more bent on getting them. My goal is to wear some type of braids for a month, give my hair a week to two week break and rock more braids. My goal is to stop having to comb and style my hair every morning and to protective style.

So hopefully, we will see some progress soon.
Until later,
Alexis

First video has been posted

My intro video to my channel (counselingsweetie) has been posted. Please watch it and subscribe to my channel.

Thank you soooo much in advance,
Alexis

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gRvzgiEDXx8&feature=youtu.be

I finally did it! My own YOUTUBE channel!

Hello, ladies.
I was so busy the last couple of weeks due to me trying to finish another class in graduate school. I finally got my test out of the way, and I made a B in the class. Another class down, six classes and an internship left to go. But enough of that, let me get down to the title of my blog.....

After many years of considering, I have finally decided to start  my own YouTube channel. My channel is named counselingsweetie.

Here is a link to the page:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCa-MaOw0wfswSG3thtkQ7BA/feed

It should take you there. If it doesn't please let me know so that I can fix it. I hope you will subscribe to my channel. As some of you may already know, I am a drug therapist. So, my channel will consist of me still going to school, my career, my journey to further myself in the field, my hair and other beauty videos.

My video will mostly consist of vlogging. I am soooo excited to finally have my channel made. I have yet to post any videos, but I am working my first one. My first one will describe everything that I am doing, like a small background. I promise to let you all know when videos are up and I will try my best to post them here on my blog so that you can see them.

I thank you in advance for supporting me in another milestone for me. I cannot wait to start making my videos and share my life.

Please subscribe if you can, I promise to get started ASAP! Also, this page will not be left abandoned, so please keep your eyes open for more and more blogs.

Alexis

So, I was called Ungrateful today (HAIR STORY)

As you may have already known, I cut my hair about two weeks ago to full shoulder length. I saw that my ends were dead and that I really needed to let go of the ends to maintain a full head of healthy hair. I want to fully commit to my hair maintaining its health rather than length. To me, I am doing my hair a good deed. The conversation I had earlier today made me question everything I have been doing about my hair.

LONG HISTORY LESSON, I was bullied back in my school days. My hair never looked the best due to the fact that my mother never really knew how to style little girls hair. So I caught a lot of crap due to the fact that my hair was poor in presentation. My hair was fried, dried out and brittle. My hair was choppy and would not lay down. So I got bullied for the devastating mess that had nerves to call itself a head of hair. I would come home and cry and pray that my hair would grow out and look nice. I graduated high school in 2006 and started my HHJ in 2008. I have yet to look back.

TODAY, I was on the phone with my mother. She asked me what was my plan for the day. I told her that I was disappointed that I could not braid my hair because of the poor quality of braid hair I purchased. She proceeded to rip me a new one. She reminded me of my previous struggle of where I came from a bad stage of horrible hair. She reminded me that I would come home and cry and pray and complain about my hair. She told me that I was ungrateful for cutting my hair and always wanting to put weave in my hair when The Lord has blessed me with improved hair. She told me that I act like I have forgotten where I have came from, like I took my blessing for granted. So, the guilt rolled in.

I started to think that maybe I am ungrateful. I prayed for longer, better looking hair for years. I mean, LOOK AT MY STARTING PIC!!!! My hair was bad! AND it was worse than that. So, I felt like I really cut out all of the blessings from my hair. I started tugging on my SL hair, slightly ashamed of myself. I started flipping through my phone of Longer-Hair-Lexis. I started really missing the nicer, longer hair. It was official; I had began to regret my hair cut.

For a quick minute, my HHJ thinking went out of the window. After sulking from the tongue lashing, I started remembering my six inches that I cut. They were split, they were dry and beyond repair. My hair was uneven, and I evened it. My ends looked bad and I got rid of them. My roots are thick but my ends were stringy. I wanted to separate myself from them. I had to snap myself back; I am doing the right thing for my hair, I had to remind myself. I am not being selfish. From 2008 up until now, I am not and will not take on the title of a self-proclaimed hair guru. I do not know everything there is to know about hair. My blog is not a tip, look at me, follow my guidelines to healthy hair blog. I am a one day at a time blog; I make mistakes and I continue to learn from them. I make good decisions and bad decisions. But I am not going to skip around the bad parts to avoid making my blog look bad or less than a progressing one. That would not be an accurate account of my HHJ. To make this lesson cohesive with my trim, I would be lying to myself if I kept those bad ends. My hair was not flourishing with those bad ends and I should not keep them if I cannot benefit from them. With that being said, I proudly rock the inches that I have. I hate when hairstyles do not go my way, but there is no reason to hate the choices I make with my hair if it means that I am trying to do right by my hair.

I am so thankful for the cut. I know what it is like to possess a healthy head of hair now. I am currently rocking my hair at the greatest health that it has ever been. My goals right now is to maintain my healthy hair and grow it longer. In addition, I am trying to proceed to full texlaxed hair. I have to respect my mother, but there are some things that I may have to take a deaf ear to.

After all, no one is on my HHJ journey but me.

Until the next post,
Alexis

No need for a missing persons report

Hey ladies.
I have finals this week. I'll return to you in a few days. Please DNT lose patience. I haven't dumped the page again. Lol.
Wish me luck, y'all. (This term was tough!)

-Alexis

Pix of the cut!

Talk about a teaser!!!! The pic didn't post?! 

Well, here y'all go!!!! 

I'm in love!!!!! 

How About a Teasing Post?!

So, I cut my hair. I am six inches shorter. I did not know that I had it in me.
The short version is that I looked at my hair in the mirror and realized something: I had over four inches of dead, walking dead ends. My ends looked bad. Another thing is that my hair is naturally shaded with browns and reds. These hues caused my hair to look even more unhealthy. So I grabbed my shears and cut a whopping 6 inches off. I'm at my shoulders again. My goal: take care of my new healthy ends, wear more cute curly styles, rely on roller sets, grow out this cut and get closer to my goal of being fully texlaxed by the end of 2016.

Pictures? Here's a one, and you will get others tomorrow!!! :-)

Life Update + Hair Talk

In the beginning of 2014, I got into a relationship and was over the moon! This was a pic of our first date. I was so happy. My hair was pretty healthy here, APL.

This pic above this texr was in the summer of 2014. I didnt know it but my relationship was on its last leg and last month. I really loved how my hair looked. I was APL, but was suffering from a thin nape due to a rough sew in. I quit my job in May and decided to intern for my degree in June. July, my relationship was over. The stress caused me to lose my hair in clumps. Also in July, I finished my internship and applied amd got hired at the same place. So I started work in July. My hair was so damaged that I needed a serious cut.

In December, I graduated with my masters with full SL hair.

Here I am, grazing APL with bangs.

My degree is counseling.  I am a drug counselor. I counsel teenage boys who are addicted to drugs. I love my job. I am also super single. No man and no length really gained within the last year. I am super serious about my hair. This is my addiction. I would live to be BSL by christmas. I am using little heat, low manipulation styles and hopefullY SOME PROTECTIVE STYLES. I hardly keep them in. I have moved closer to my job. I am also near some salons. So hopefully I can get some versatility in the head region. 

My struggle is that I want to look, adult and professional in regards to my hair. I do not plan relinquishing my duties as primary hair caretaker. But im getting tired. Lol. 

In my transition to my new home, im lacking all of products in order to leave my mom with products. So I am using this opportunity to switch my regimen to a natural product regumen. As stated in the last post, im transitioning to texlaxed. 

Continue to follow my journey. 

Mwah!!!

OMG, I am back.....AGAIN!

Hello, people!!!
I have been gone for sooooooo long. But I wanted to come to you with a short blog! I am back and I going to be here in full effect. I wanted to explain a few things.

I had a really bad breakup in 2013.
I was working hard in grad school up until December 2014.
I got into a relationship in 2014, which ended up in a bad breakup.
I graduated from grad school.
I got a new job.
I MOVED!!!!!

I have done all of this and I have remained the same length, if not shorter.
However, I am here to work on not only gaining length, but to make another announcement. I will no longer relax my hair. I am currently transitioning to TEXLAXED hair. So I will be covering that journey here. I am currently overall APL, scattered texlaxed. I am not even TWA texlaxed. My next touchup will probably be in May. But I will cover everything in later blogs. My goal is to get you two posts a week. I am hoping that I will never go this long away from blog again.

In this blog, I will also show my new loves: minimal makeup application and 3D nail art. Please stay tuned with me as I transition back into a blogger.

I have missed y'all.
Stay tuned!