Watching for Length is making me INSANE!!!

I have given up straightening my hair looking for more growth. I have grown tired of looking for length after my relaxers. I am just so irritated with not having any growth. But I am thankful for my healthy looking ends. I am thankful that my hair is growing back in on my sides. I am thankful that my hair is growing in where it has broken off from my bonnet. I am thankful for lesser breakage and lesser shedding. I am thankful that I can put my hair into a pony tail. I am thankful that I can call this hair MINES. So, yea I may be disappointed about not meeting hair goals, but my family continues to compliment my hair like its dragging behind me on the floor. SO....I guess that is better than nothing. At this point, I am on a strict hair regimen which includes washes weekly, more clarifiers, more moisturizers, more oils, more vitamins, more protective styles, less heat, less heat, less hands in my hair. My three year heathy hair jounery anniversary is TOMORROW. Three years in a commitment to doing better by my hair. I have done better by my hair, BUT I can do way better. I am so in love with my hair. Currently, I am air drying from a protein wash and coconut deep conditioning.
3yr anny blog post to come soon.

Happy Turkey Day and more news

Happy Turkey Day everyone. I hope everyone is doing well. Well, I will be when the food gets ready, lol. I decided to write this quick blog to talk about what has been going on the last few days. If you are on Hairlista, I wrote a blog on there talking about how I cannot get enough of direct heat. It is more like an addiction. I get so frustrated from doing my hair with bummed sets and dud hhair styles that never turn out right. So, direct heat always come in and save the day, but at what cost? I asked was heat once a week really that bad if I moisturize properly and oil properly. Like I expected, I got mixed opinions. So basically, I decided to try one more time with the different less direct heat hair styles. Before I commit to that, I straightened my hair one more time, lol. When I straightened it, I was so disgusted with the middle in the back thinner than the sides and one side was longer than the other side. So, I jumped the gun from my 2012 goal and went ahead and evened my back. It is not as blunt as I would like for it to be, BUT it looks a whole lot better. The middle doesn't look that thin, the sides are even and my ends are on their way to being at the bluntness that I am looking for. I lost about an inch of hair, but I parted with it because I said that I could be fried from all of the heat and that I was going to enjoy my bluntness more than length. So I am think I am right at APL right now. So basically I am going to miss out on my goal of the year which was to meet BSL for December. But thats ok. I am glad I did it last night so that now it will be no problem for me to continue to keep up with that cut and not be so apprehensive about cutting off more hair to maintain the blunt ends. All and all, I am satisfied. That's the price you have to pay if you love direct heat like me. But like I said in my previous blog, I am more serious about my hair's health more than ever, because I feel like I am behind in growth. I won't be left behind anymore.

Until next time, and don't have too much dressing,
Lex

Contemplating

Hello, world. I hope this message reaches some happy people. I am doing well considering some things, lol. Anyways, I am currently at home enjoying my thanksgiving break. I have been a little confused with my relaxer info. I am usually so good about keeping with this info. This entire time, I thought I was four weeks post. No way! I am actaully six weeks post. I was so taken back. This doesn't sound like a big deal, but I am just so amazed how I lost two whole weeks from my stretching. Anywho....I am going to relax my hair *fingers crossed* (because I have become so impatient) December 14 at 10 weeks. That is only four weeks. I should be able to make four weeks, right?

I have a few goals for the new year. my goal for December 31st or January 1st is that regardless of how high I have to go, I AM BLUNT CUT MY ENDS!!! To me, blunt ends shows good hair health. I am too terrified to go to the salon and get this done. I do not want to leave with this major hair cut. The girl I do trust to do this, well, she didn't know until she was 29 weeks pregnant that she was with child. She is hospitalized until she has the baby. Scary, right? So, I am going to attempt this on my own. I believe when I do this, I will begin to start a new year of healthy hair journey. 2012 is the year of seriousness and hard work. I am going to do WHATEVER I have to do to make it to BSL (if I do not make to BSL by this December) and MBL. I have a small feeling that I will not be quite BSL by graduation, which is fine. After the trim, I am setting a goal for BSL by April 2012.

Also, my 3 year HHJ anny is coming up next month, December 8th! I cannot believe that it has been three years since I made the move to do good by my hair. Oh, I cannot wait. Watch out for that blog, I am going to talk about everything, from the beginning, to my starting picture, to my five week stretches between relaxers, my mother's disapproval, my new hair styles I learned to make, wigs, weave, boyfriend, edges, trims, swimming regimen, texlax, considering going natural, difficult hair, weak hair, hands always in my head, constant questions whether this is my hair, ETC!!! The list goes on and on and on. One more important thing is where I avoid being a product junkie and started loving my hair. So, be on the look out for that blog, and it is going to be a long one.

Another goal of mines is to have a more active blog. I am trying to get my mother more involved in the hair journey. I already have my grandmother on board, but I need to educate her alittle on what products to use and when. I am also going to do longer stretches, so I can have more NG for my relaxers. I would love to do a four month (16 week) stretch in 2012. I would love to do it from July 1st to November 1st. I would also love to do two whole months in braids at a time. I would like to have braids from Feburary 20th to April 20th. I would love to have my hair relaxed on May 1st and stretch from May 1st to July 1st. My goal for 2012 would be also to only get four relaxers that yearm but if not no more than five. I do not want to do another trim until December, just a S and D. I am also considering cutting the front of my hair different, just to have variation in the front.
So...this is only the tip of the iceberg with what I have planned. None of this matters if I do not put it into motion. Follow on my journey to have long healthy hair.

Muah! See you in the under the dryer...

Havent Blogged in a while

Apologize for that. It is November and I am trying to graduate next semester, lol. So you already know that the pressure is on. I hope everyone is doing well. I am under the weather; however, I have not failed to keep my hair's health up to par. I am two weeks post today. I have only one goal in November, NO RELAXER! I am trying to get more growth for my upcoming graduation. However, I am no longer predicting my relaxers. I never meet the dates that I would really like for my hair to be relaxed anyway. So, I am going to play it by ear.

As of right now, I only have a couple of problem areas. One, I have a prob with handling my hair after NG has came in, so I am going to work on that one this month. Also, I am going to be working on my left side of my edges, trying to grow them in. I am also trying fill in the gap in the back of my head. I am also want my left side to grow out and maintain even hair. PLUS growth! So, I guess I have more than a couple of things I am working on.

I wasn't ready

What is my title about? Today was my alma mater's homecoming. I haven't attended a high school event since I have been out of school, five years ago. I haven't seen many of my classmates, maybe two every now and then. But the opportunity arosed today to go tailgate. I went to the tailgate. I saw three classmates then. One asked me to come to homecoming game. I told her ok. My brother has only been out of high school a year. When my brother came home for the festivities, he made sure he looked good for the parade and the tailgating. For the game, he dressed up really nice. He wanted to look like an "alumini," he said. I asked jokingly, you want to show people that you are doing something with your life. He said of course. After the comment was made and responded to, I started feeling uneasy. I didn't want to go all of a sudden. I felt inferior to people, even though I am probably one out of every twenty five people I would have bumped into to go to college. But why did I feel like I wasn't doing anything with myself. I felt really bad. I did not feel like I had anything going for me. So, I stayed home, writing this blog, feeling like a lame. I was not ready to show my face. I was not ready to go out and do this. My high school experience was horrible; I didn't have many friends. I was picked on alot. Even though I am probably doing alot more than what some of these same people are doing, I did not feel that way.
What is wrong with me???

What have you been doing?

Hello...I have been looking at my hair in disgust. lol...That is what I have been doing. My hair is blah and I am ashamed. What happened was I was experiencing serious shedding that did not go away with my protein treatments. So, at six or seven weeks, I decided to relax. I didn't see to much growth and I was still shedding. So, I styled my hair, moisturized and kept moving. The next week, I noticed more shedding hair. So I decided to wash my hair and DC. While I was air drying, I dared myself to give my hair that even back trim that I needed so bad. And I did. It looks so much better...but one side could be trim 1/4 to 1/2 inch more. But I am going to wait next relaxer. Last week, I decided to wash my hair again but instead of DC and then a leave in, I only decided to do my protein and the water based leave in moisturizer. BEST THING I EVER DID!!! My hair is so much better. I still have some shedding, but not like I used to. So, I am cutting down my usage of moisture. Slowly, I am going to reteach myself moisture and protein balance without experimenting in my head.

I am still hoping for BSL for Christmas, despite the trim. I am still hopeful. I am also waiting for MBL before the end of summer 2012.
Continue to follow me. Hopefully, I will get a camera soon for pix.

-Lex-

Coming Soon: Melanie Fiona inspired hair

So, I was looking on the internet and found this hairstyle on Melanie Fiona that I want so bad.

It is youthful, but very adult, in my opinion. The only problem is....my hair is obviously not long enough for that side braid. I tried it with my real hair. It was a cute hair style for the beach, but it is not what I am exactly looking for. So I went to BSS and bought a pack of PERM YAKY BRAID hair. I am going to use this hair for my braid. I am still working out the kinks of how I am going insert the hair to look natural. I am six weeks post, looking a hot mess, lol, so I believe this will help my hair and the weave look cohesive, if anything. I will probably be doing hairstyle in the next few days...so be looking out for the end results, comparison, my opinion and a tutorial.

with love,
Lex